1st! Watch as many movies as you can. Make friends. Explore hobbies. Find what/who makes you happy and who/what does not. Listen to everything without much emotional response. *write your responses down or perhaps internalize them for later. This step is REALLY hard for most people. Just find whatever works for you, regardless of what any one person tells you. :)*
2nd! Make up your mind about trust. Know that you can't know everything and even if you could who's to say you'd know anything at all? Trust the people who *always make you happy. Do not be afraid if your answers turn out to be silly. In fact, I hope some of them are! Everything you think and feel is important and you know it :).
Hone your listening skillz to the best of your ability! There is no bad information, there is no good information, there is no waiting for cake. That cake is a lie. Luckily, you already posses all of the ingredients!! Yum!
3rd! Once you feel you have mastered this to the best of your ability you are ready for this step. Note that all of this may take a very long time or a very short time, it is of no consequence. You already have everything you need, so there is no hurry to do anything! Don't worry, be happy :)
Once you got that down, time to have some lighthearted fun!! GO RESEARCH and if you accidentally change your wife's legal name to TARGUS TARGUS it's probably better that way anyway. Yay! Keep on editing, rough drafts are fun!!!